I love my husband. I mean, I am madly, deeply, passionately in love with him. That said, Lucy and Ricky might have been on to something. I feel guilty admitting this, but I fall asleep faster when my husband isn’t in bed with me. We often go to bed at different times, as I tend to go to bed about an hour before he does. Fortunately, he rarely wakes me when it’s time for him to go to sleep. Thus it makes my falling asleep more quickly without him in the bed more easily accomplished.
But why does this happen when he isn’t there? I’m sure there are a myriad of reasons that experts would claim are the reason behind why I fall asleep faster when I am alone. But I am not going to the experts. I am going to my thoughts behind the reason or reasons that I believe are behind how quickly I fall asleep.
To begin, I tend to toss and turn. When my husband and I go to bed at the same time, I am more aware of how much moving around I am doing. I keep thinking that my tossing must be keeping him awake, and these incessant thoughts keep me awake longer.
To make matters worse, I am a cover thief. I enjoy the feeling of the covers bunched up between my head and my shoulder. To accomplish this, I have to pull the covers up from the foot of the bed. Also, my feet sometimes get hot, so I kick the covers off of them. My husband is not amused by this. He wants the covers to do their job...to actually cover him. We end up playing a tug-of-war so that we can both get the sheet coverage, which causes a lack thereof to both of us, and ultimately no one wins this war. Of course, the longer we play, the longer it takes me to get to sleep.
I don’t want people to think that I don’t enjoy sharing the bed with my husband. I am grateful to have him in my life, and sharing my bed with him is a privilege. I am just aware that when we go to bed at the same time, it might take me a drop longer to fall asleep. And that’s okay with me. Because we got married for better, for worse, and for taking longer to fall asleep.